A Teen Who Says “Nothing” May Need a Different Question

By Mary Parker, LPC-S, Clinical Director, Infinite Potential

Opening a conversation without an interrogation

A parent asks about school and hears “nothing” or “fine.” It is easy to conclude that the teen is refusing connection. Sometimes the question is simply too broad, too predictable, or asked before the teen has had time to transition home. A different entry point may make conversation feel less like reporting.

Choose one concrete question and let the answer remain small. Ask about a moment, a person, or a surprise. Avoid turning the first detail into ten follow-up questions. You can show interest with “That sounds frustrating” before deciding whether advice is needed.

Timing matters, too. Some teens talk more easily while walking, driving, cooking, or doing something side by side. Offer opportunities without making every shared activity a disguised check-in. If the teen does talk, protect the moment by listening before correcting their interpretation.

Counseling can give teens a separate space to explore stress while helping parents build supportive communication. If withdrawal is new, persistent, or paired with changes in sleep, functioning, or safety, seek assessment. A brief answer alone does not tell you the full story.

Counseling support near Austin

Austin residents can contact Infinite Potential about counseling at our Round Rock office. Contact Infinite Potential to discuss teen counseling and the intake process. You can also explore family counseling options.